Are You Raising a Bully? – Speak Out!

n. pl. bul·lies

v. bul·lied, bul·ly·ing, bul·lies

v.tr.

v.intr.

This post has been on the back of my mind for a long time.I just kept thinking to myself can people really act like that? Especially adults. I'll be honest with you I was always made fun of in school.I was to skinny, my nose was to big or whatever.People prey on those who have a good heart because they see them as a week and and easy target. I hung out with everyone in school, my mom always taught me to make friends with those who seem alone and I did. I saw how people not only treated me but so many others at school. It would start as casual teasing but kids just didn't know when to quit. The worst part of it was, they didn't know what I was dealing with at home, read my post,Speaking out on Domestic Violence – Yes, I was abused!.Even my own child was bullyed at school. People made fun of the Psoriasis and called him mummy ears. My heart sank for him. Here he is, faced with something that already makes him uncomfortable and something that he can't help and then people are making him feel even worse. Bullying seems to be one of the invisible diseases. No one wants to talk about it and no one wants to think their children would ever be one. I am here to give you a wakeup call people. I see bully's every where. People only think of bully's as people who hit or beat up other people but you can also be a bully with your words. I have seen, kids, adults,school teachers, moms, dads,youth leaders all participate in what I would call bullying. I have even had my own fans on my Facebook and blog participate in bullying.Why would anyone take joy in making someone else feel bad. The only thing I can think of are 3 things.

1. They have low self esteem so they put down others to lift themselves up.
2. They struggle in their own life or home environment so they choose to act out but what they really need is someone to love them back.
3. They honestly don't believe what they are doing is wrong. In this instance I am talking about the playful kidding that goes to far.
4. OK yeah I thought of another. I choose not to believe this one but maybe they just have so much hatred in their hearts that they just don't care. They are selfish.

Parents:

Talk to your kids, I don't mean just once because I posted this. Talk to them everyday. Remind them every morning before they go to school to remember how we should treat others and what it would feel like to be made fun of. Take your blinders off. Just because you think you have good kids doesn't make them immune to immaturity. Kids are kids, they learn by example. How do you joke with your friends around your kids? It could be an innocent joke to you but your kids are like little sponges soaking up everything they see and hear.

Teacher's and Youth Pastor's:

You have such an important job. You are such big influencers in our kids lives. It's important for you to really be aware of what's going on in your classroom, in the halls and on the playground. Don't ignore something thinking it will go away or that kids will be kids. A child that's being made fun of may be smiling on the outside but may be crying on the inside. Some kids joke and laugh back as a defense mechanism but really they are hurting on the inside. I'll even go one step further. Do you try to be the best friend in your classroom or the leader? Many times I see teachers and youth pastors joke around with the kids and say things they shouldn't. You should be setting an example. If this is the kind of example our kids are getting then we are in trouble.

Kids:

You can choose to be a leader as well. If you see an adult or another child picking on someone speak out! Remember your words are a weapon. A simple joke can be very hurtful to someone. I have also seen people who have been bullys have the tables turned on them. They have seen how hurtful it can be. I just hope they remember how they treated others in the past. Just because someone looks different then you or has different likes and dislikes doesn't mean it's OK to pick on them. If we were all the same life would be boring. It saddens me that kids have been so mean that they have caused other kids to take their own life.

 

If we all banned together to join the same cause there is no room for anyone to be left out! There is a new movie that came out March 30th called Bully. Do you plan to see it?

Have you or your child been bullied? How did you cope with it. How are you talking to your kids about bullying?

We are taking a stand! Please not we will NOT tolerate bulling on our blog or our Facebook pages. This is your only warning. We will not hold your hand, you are an adult and you know how to act. If you post something negative and hurtful about someone your comments will automatically be deleted and you will be banned.